I am the millions and multitudes,
That bow down to you and worship you.
I am democracy, and humility, and pride,
For I have internalised the dominatrix,
But remain submissive in my arrogance and splendour.
Many women trample upon me,
With their hearts in their boots,
But you give me a handshake with a warm smile,
With your intermittent continuity,
And pert dancing eyes.
For like me, you are many,
Yet we remain as lowly creatures and divine beings,
Of individuality, solidarity, and uniqueness.
From star to star,
From glove to glove,
From filtering imagination to reaffirmation,
I charm the subtle and carefree ghost,
Of materialised and returned interconnection.
Heterosexual Male Masochism, and the Repressed and Deprived Responses, Wishes, and Fantasies of Others
In this article, I explain that the common professional, and academic misconception, of "the perverted ideal of a woman" by heterosexual masochist men, is actually created by repressed BDSM society, and by repressed and repressive, so-called non-BDSM society - and what's more - heterosexual male masochism, is neither perverted, idealisation of women, nor a so-called mental illness.
When women and men, in society, come into sight or contact, with heterosexual male masochists, through covert or overt ways and means, this can create certain responses and fantasies in non-masochist men and women.
The secret natural female desire, for many women to gain some erotic and sexual pleasure, and love, from sexually dominating, and humiliating men (as a form of psychological sadism), if repressed or denied in some way, sometimes creates an extreme bonding between women, which then causes some lesbianism - or unnatural lesbian feelings - through the repression, deprivation, and denial, which then creates a perverse identification, towards and about heterosexual masochist men; which most openly sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, who are not deprived from heterosexual masochist men, don’t possess. This is not to say that actual lesbianism and male homosexuality, is unnatural, but there are some unnatural versions or forms of it, in some heterosexual women and men, in the ways that I here describe and explain in this article.
The male jealousy, from non-masochist men, about heterosexual masochist men worshipping women, and in some ways favouring women over men, socially, sexually, and in terms of love, creates some ignorance and homosexual feelings from non-masochist heterosexual men, towards heterosexual masochist men.
The extreme female bonding, denial, deprivation, and repression, which creates unnatural lesbian feelings in these women, is then projected onto men, creating female fantasies of homosexual male behaviour (as the extreme bonding of heterosexual sexually dominant men, can make these men fantasise about lesbian sexual behaviours).
This female denial, deprivation, and repression, also makes some actual homosexual men, feel that they have a role and duty, to conform to these perverse female fantasies about heterosexual masochist men, as a giving in to this pressure, to want the heterosexual masochist man, to be homosexual, and to label, dominate, and humiliate him as such. In giving in to this pressure, and the perverse fantasies of these women, these homosexual men, are in some ways playing the role of a heterosexual male masochist, in a social or interpersonal sense, but non-sexually. This is also another way, that actual homosexual men, deal with their jealousy of heterosexual masochist men, worshipping and favouring women over men.
These homosexual men, also play this role in attacking heterosexual masochist men in this way, in order to please these woman's projections, of their unnatural lesbianism onto the heterosexual masochist, and to conform in some way to their unnatural lesbian fantasies, to fantasise about the sexual activities of homosexuals. This also explains, why many repressed sexually dominant and sadistic women, will at some stage, try to get other men - usually sexually dominant men towards women - to sexually dominate and inflict pain and/or humiliation, on heterosexual masochist men, but they also try to get homosexual men to do this too, in the ways that I have explained.
The extreme bonding, deprivation from heterosexual masochist men, and the female fantasies of homosexual male behaviours and activities, using homosexual men as instruments to label the heterosexual masochist man as homosexual, and to encourage both homosexual and heterosexual men, to socially and/or sexually dominate the heterosexual male masochist, is a way of these women, to create a convenient lack of responsibility for their own true sexually dominant and sadistic thoughts, desires, and feelings, towards heterosexual masochist men, and towards men in general.
There is also a prejudice, about heterosexual masochist men, by men and women in society - particularly by some so-called radical feminist groups and individuals - that heterosexual masochist men, are mimicking and conforming to the characteristics, of socially and sexually submissive women towards men and male oppression, authoritarianism, and patriarchy. What this prejudiced and false view, doesn’t take into account, is that there are very distinct differences between female and male masochism, between female and male sadism, and that heterosexual masochist women are also different from socially submissive women.
Heterosexual female submissives and/or female masochists, have more of a tendency, to become or play the role, of sexual dominants and/or sadists, towards other men or women sexually, than heterosexual male masochists have a tendency, to play the sexually dominant or sadistic role towards women. One big reason for this, is because heterosexual female masochists, can absorb sexually assertive or dominant male sexuality, in both a passive, transformative, and an assertive or dominant sense, as a true part of their femininity, in order to distinguish and differentiate themselves, from socially submissive women towards men, male oppression, and patriarchy. On the other hand, heterosexual male masochists absorb assertive or dominant female sexuality, in order to either diminish masculinity, and/or to transform masculinity, into something more nurturing and passive for women.
There is also a widespread prejudice about male masochism, particularly by those of a socialist political persuasion, that again, heterosexual male masochism, is mimicking the weakness of women who conform to male authority and power, and that masochist men and sexually dominant and sadistic women, are not being strong TOGETHER. This describes equality of assertiveness and strength, as a purely social process, but not also as a psychological one, and it fails to realise or acknowledge, that mutual and equal strength and assertiveness, is achieved between heterosexual masochist men and sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, by creating an interchange of pleasure and power, towards equality, without diminishing, repressing, or denying very important and vital individual, and individual group differences.
Many lesbian women, also have some desire to dominate heterosexual masochist men sexually and sadistically, and in fact lesbian women like Valerie Solanis (who wrote the Scum Manifesto), admitted that she got some pleasure from this, as does the libertarian feminist, sadist, lesbian, and writer/author, Camille Paglia, but none of this diminishes these women’s lesbianism, and does not mean they are heterosexual.
One big reason, why lesbian women, sometimes like to be sexually dominant and/or sadistic, towards heterosexual masochist men, is because in their lesbian love relationships, they are not allowed to be sexually dominant and sadistic, or sexually submissive towards other women, but they internalise characteristics, of the heterosexual masochist man, and identify with it, in their lesbian desires for BDSM activities, to be added to their lesbian love relationships. These lesbian women, will sometimes use heterosexual women for this too, in order to make them in some way socially and/or sexually, submissive and masochistic towards them, who like homosexual men, will play a masochist role for them, and go along with this social and psychological pressure.
When women and men, in society, come into sight or contact, with heterosexual male masochists, through covert or overt ways and means, this can create certain responses and fantasies in non-masochist men and women.
The secret natural female desire, for many women to gain some erotic and sexual pleasure, and love, from sexually dominating, and humiliating men (as a form of psychological sadism), if repressed or denied in some way, sometimes creates an extreme bonding between women, which then causes some lesbianism - or unnatural lesbian feelings - through the repression, deprivation, and denial, which then creates a perverse identification, towards and about heterosexual masochist men; which most openly sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, who are not deprived from heterosexual masochist men, don’t possess. This is not to say that actual lesbianism and male homosexuality, is unnatural, but there are some unnatural versions or forms of it, in some heterosexual women and men, in the ways that I here describe and explain in this article.
The male jealousy, from non-masochist men, about heterosexual masochist men worshipping women, and in some ways favouring women over men, socially, sexually, and in terms of love, creates some ignorance and homosexual feelings from non-masochist heterosexual men, towards heterosexual masochist men.
The extreme female bonding, denial, deprivation, and repression, which creates unnatural lesbian feelings in these women, is then projected onto men, creating female fantasies of homosexual male behaviour (as the extreme bonding of heterosexual sexually dominant men, can make these men fantasise about lesbian sexual behaviours).
This female denial, deprivation, and repression, also makes some actual homosexual men, feel that they have a role and duty, to conform to these perverse female fantasies about heterosexual masochist men, as a giving in to this pressure, to want the heterosexual masochist man, to be homosexual, and to label, dominate, and humiliate him as such. In giving in to this pressure, and the perverse fantasies of these women, these homosexual men, are in some ways playing the role of a heterosexual male masochist, in a social or interpersonal sense, but non-sexually. This is also another way, that actual homosexual men, deal with their jealousy of heterosexual masochist men, worshipping and favouring women over men.
These homosexual men, also play this role in attacking heterosexual masochist men in this way, in order to please these woman's projections, of their unnatural lesbianism onto the heterosexual masochist, and to conform in some way to their unnatural lesbian fantasies, to fantasise about the sexual activities of homosexuals. This also explains, why many repressed sexually dominant and sadistic women, will at some stage, try to get other men - usually sexually dominant men towards women - to sexually dominate and inflict pain and/or humiliation, on heterosexual masochist men, but they also try to get homosexual men to do this too, in the ways that I have explained.
The extreme bonding, deprivation from heterosexual masochist men, and the female fantasies of homosexual male behaviours and activities, using homosexual men as instruments to label the heterosexual masochist man as homosexual, and to encourage both homosexual and heterosexual men, to socially and/or sexually dominate the heterosexual male masochist, is a way of these women, to create a convenient lack of responsibility for their own true sexually dominant and sadistic thoughts, desires, and feelings, towards heterosexual masochist men, and towards men in general.
There is also a prejudice, about heterosexual masochist men, by men and women in society - particularly by some so-called radical feminist groups and individuals - that heterosexual masochist men, are mimicking and conforming to the characteristics, of socially and sexually submissive women towards men and male oppression, authoritarianism, and patriarchy. What this prejudiced and false view, doesn’t take into account, is that there are very distinct differences between female and male masochism, between female and male sadism, and that heterosexual masochist women are also different from socially submissive women.
Heterosexual female submissives and/or female masochists, have more of a tendency, to become or play the role, of sexual dominants and/or sadists, towards other men or women sexually, than heterosexual male masochists have a tendency, to play the sexually dominant or sadistic role towards women. One big reason for this, is because heterosexual female masochists, can absorb sexually assertive or dominant male sexuality, in both a passive, transformative, and an assertive or dominant sense, as a true part of their femininity, in order to distinguish and differentiate themselves, from socially submissive women towards men, male oppression, and patriarchy. On the other hand, heterosexual male masochists absorb assertive or dominant female sexuality, in order to either diminish masculinity, and/or to transform masculinity, into something more nurturing and passive for women.
There is also a widespread prejudice about male masochism, particularly by those of a socialist political persuasion, that again, heterosexual male masochism, is mimicking the weakness of women who conform to male authority and power, and that masochist men and sexually dominant and sadistic women, are not being strong TOGETHER. This describes equality of assertiveness and strength, as a purely social process, but not also as a psychological one, and it fails to realise or acknowledge, that mutual and equal strength and assertiveness, is achieved between heterosexual masochist men and sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, by creating an interchange of pleasure and power, towards equality, without diminishing, repressing, or denying very important and vital individual, and individual group differences.
Many lesbian women, also have some desire to dominate heterosexual masochist men sexually and sadistically, and in fact lesbian women like Valerie Solanis (who wrote the Scum Manifesto), admitted that she got some pleasure from this, as does the libertarian feminist, sadist, lesbian, and writer/author, Camille Paglia, but none of this diminishes these women’s lesbianism, and does not mean they are heterosexual.
One big reason, why lesbian women, sometimes like to be sexually dominant and/or sadistic, towards heterosexual masochist men, is because in their lesbian love relationships, they are not allowed to be sexually dominant and sadistic, or sexually submissive towards other women, but they internalise characteristics, of the heterosexual masochist man, and identify with it, in their lesbian desires for BDSM activities, to be added to their lesbian love relationships. These lesbian women, will sometimes use heterosexual women for this too, in order to make them in some way socially and/or sexually, submissive and masochistic towards them, who like homosexual men, will play a masochist role for them, and go along with this social and psychological pressure.
When women and men, in society, come into sight or contact, with heterosexual male masochists, through covert or overt ways and means, this can create certain responses and fantasies in non-masochist men and women.
The secret natural female desire, for many women to gain some erotic and sexual pleasure, and love, from sexually dominating, and humiliating men (as a form of psychological sadism), if repressed or denied in some way, sometimes creates an extreme bonding between women, which then causes some lesbianism - or unnatural lesbian feelings - through the repression, deprivation, and denial, which then creates a perverse identification, towards and about heterosexual masochist men; which most openly sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, who are not deprived from heterosexual masochist men, don’t possess. This is not to say that actual lesbianism and male homosexuality, is unnatural, but there are some unnatural versions or forms of it, in some heterosexual women and men, in the ways that I here describe and explain in this article.
The male jealousy, from non-masochist men, about heterosexual masochist men worshipping women, and in some ways favouring women over men, socially, sexually, and in terms of love, creates some ignorance and homosexual feelings from non-masochist heterosexual men, towards heterosexual masochist men.
The extreme female bonding, denial, deprivation, and repression, which creates unnatural lesbian feelings in these women, is then projected onto men, creating female fantasies of homosexual male behaviour (as the extreme bonding of heterosexual sexually dominant men, can make these men fantasise about lesbian sexual behaviours).
This female denial, deprivation, and repression, also makes some actual homosexual men, feel that they have a role and duty, to conform to these perverse female fantasies about heterosexual masochist men, as a giving in to this pressure, to want the heterosexual masochist man, to be homosexual, and to label, dominate, and humiliate him as such. In giving in to this pressure, and the perverse fantasies of these women, these homosexual men, are in some ways playing the role of a heterosexual male masochist, in a social or interpersonal sense, but non-sexually. This is also another way, that actual homosexual men, deal with their jealousy of heterosexual masochist men, worshipping and favouring women over men.
These homosexual men, also play this role in attacking heterosexual masochist men in this way, in order to please these woman's projections, of their unnatural lesbianism onto the heterosexual masochist, and to conform in some way to their unnatural lesbian fantasies, to fantasise about the sexual activities of homosexuals. This also explains, why many repressed sexually dominant and sadistic women, will at some stage, try to get other men - usually sexually dominant men towards women - to sexually dominate and inflict pain and/or humiliation, on heterosexual masochist men, but they also try to get homosexual men to do this too, in the ways that I have explained.
The extreme bonding, deprivation from heterosexual masochist men, and the female fantasies of homosexual male behaviours and activities, using homosexual men as instruments to label the heterosexual masochist man as homosexual, and to encourage both homosexual and heterosexual men, to socially and/or sexually dominate the heterosexual male masochist, is a way of these women, to create a convenient lack of responsibility for their own true sexually dominant and sadistic thoughts, desires, and feelings, towards heterosexual masochist men, and towards men in general.
There is also a prejudice, about heterosexual masochist men, by men and women in society - particularly by some so-called radical feminist groups and individuals - that heterosexual masochist men, are mimicking and conforming to the characteristics, of socially and sexually submissive women towards men and male oppression, authoritarianism, and patriarchy. What this prejudiced and false view, doesn’t take into account, is that there are very distinct differences between female and male masochism, between female and male sadism, and that heterosexual masochist women are also different from socially submissive women.
Heterosexual female submissives and/or female masochists, have more of a tendency, to become or play the role, of sexual dominants and/or sadists, towards other men or women sexually, than heterosexual male masochists have a tendency, to play the sexually dominant or sadistic role towards women. One big reason for this, is because heterosexual female masochists, can absorb sexually assertive or dominant male sexuality, in both a passive, transformative, and an assertive or dominant sense, as a true part of their femininity, in order to distinguish and differentiate themselves, from socially submissive women towards men, male oppression, and patriarchy. On the other hand, heterosexual male masochists absorb assertive or dominant female sexuality, in order to either diminish masculinity, and/or to transform masculinity, into something more nurturing and passive for women.
There is also a widespread prejudice about male masochism, particularly by those of a socialist political persuasion, that again, heterosexual male masochism, is mimicking the weakness of women who conform to male authority and power, and that masochist men and sexually dominant and sadistic women, are not being strong TOGETHER. This describes equality of assertiveness and strength, as a purely social process, but not also as a psychological one, and it fails to realise or acknowledge, that mutual and equal strength and assertiveness, is achieved between heterosexual masochist men and sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, by creating an interchange of pleasure and power, towards equality, without diminishing, repressing, or denying very important and vital individual, and individual group differences.
Many lesbian women, also have some desire to dominate heterosexual masochist men sexually and sadistically, and in fact lesbian women like Valerie Solanis (who wrote the Scum Manifesto), admitted that she got some pleasure from this, as does the libertarian feminist, sadist, lesbian, and writer/author, Camille Paglia, but none of this diminishes these women’s lesbianism, and does not mean they are heterosexual.
One big reason, why lesbian women, sometimes like to be sexually dominant and/or sadistic, towards heterosexual masochist men, is because in their lesbian love relationships, they are not allowed to be sexually dominant and sadistic, or sexually submissive towards other women, but they internalise characteristics, of the heterosexual masochist man, and identify with it, in their lesbian desires for BDSM activities, to be added to their lesbian love relationships. These lesbian women, will sometimes use heterosexual women for this too, in order to make them in some way socially and/or sexually, submissive and masochistic towards them, who like homosexual men, will play a masochist role for them, and go along with this social and psychological pressure.
When women and men, in society, come into sight or contact, with heterosexual male masochists, through covert or overt ways and means, this can create certain responses and fantasies in non-masochist men and women.
The secret natural female desire, for many women to gain some erotic and sexual pleasure, and love, from sexually dominating, and humiliating men (as a form of psychological sadism), if repressed or denied in some way, sometimes creates an extreme bonding between women, which then causes some lesbianism - or unnatural lesbian feelings - through the repression, deprivation, and denial, which then creates a perverse identification, towards and about heterosexual masochist men; which most openly sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, who are not deprived from heterosexual masochist men, don’t possess. This is not to say that actual lesbianism and male homosexuality, is unnatural, but there are some unnatural versions or forms of it, in some heterosexual women and men, in the ways that I here describe and explain in this article.
The male jealousy, from non-masochist men, about heterosexual masochist men worshipping women, and in some ways favouring women over men, socially, sexually, and in terms of love, creates some ignorance and homosexual feelings from non-masochist heterosexual men, towards heterosexual masochist men.
The extreme female bonding, denial, deprivation, and repression, which creates unnatural lesbian feelings in these women, is then projected onto men, creating female fantasies of homosexual male behaviour (as the extreme bonding of heterosexual sexually dominant men, can make these men fantasise about lesbian sexual behaviours).
This female denial, deprivation, and repression, also makes some actual homosexual men, feel that they have a role and duty, to conform to these perverse female fantasies about heterosexual masochist men, as a giving in to this pressure, to want the heterosexual masochist man, to be homosexual, and to label, dominate, and humiliate him as such. In giving in to this pressure, and the perverse fantasies of these women, these homosexual men, are in some ways playing the role of a heterosexual male masochist, in a social or interpersonal sense, but non-sexually. This is also another way, that actual homosexual men, deal with their jealousy of heterosexual masochist men, worshipping and favouring women over men.
These homosexual men, also play this role in attacking heterosexual masochist men in this way, in order to please these woman's projections, of their unnatural lesbianism onto the heterosexual masochist, and to conform in some way to their unnatural lesbian fantasies, to fantasise about the sexual activities of homosexuals. This also explains, why many repressed sexually dominant and sadistic women, will at some stage, try to get other men - usually sexually dominant men towards women - to sexually dominate and inflict pain and/or humiliation, on heterosexual masochist men, but they also try to get homosexual men to do this too, in the ways that I have explained.
The extreme bonding, deprivation from heterosexual masochist men, and the female fantasies of homosexual male behaviours and activities, using homosexual men as instruments to label the heterosexual masochist man as homosexual, and to encourage both homosexual and heterosexual men, to socially and/or sexually dominate the heterosexual male masochist, is a way of these women, to create a convenient lack of responsibility for their own true sexually dominant and sadistic thoughts, desires, and feelings, towards heterosexual masochist men, and towards men in general.
There is also a prejudice, about heterosexual masochist men, by men and women in society - particularly by some so-called radical feminist groups and individuals - that heterosexual masochist men, are mimicking and conforming to the characteristics, of socially and sexually submissive women towards men and male oppression, authoritarianism, and patriarchy. What this prejudiced and false view, doesn’t take into account, is that there are very distinct differences between female and male masochism, between female and male sadism, and that heterosexual masochist women are also different from socially submissive women.
Heterosexual female submissives and/or female masochists, have more of a tendency, to become or play the role, of sexual dominants and/or sadists, towards other men or women sexually, than heterosexual male masochists have a tendency, to play the sexually dominant or sadistic role towards women. One big reason for this, is because heterosexual female masochists, can absorb sexually assertive or dominant male sexuality, in both a passive, transformative, and an assertive or dominant sense, as a true part of their femininity, in order to distinguish and differentiate themselves, from socially submissive women towards men, male oppression, and patriarchy. On the other hand, heterosexual male masochists absorb assertive or dominant female sexuality, in order to either diminish masculinity, and/or to transform masculinity, into something more nurturing and passive for women.
There is also a widespread prejudice about male masochism, particularly by those of a socialist political persuasion, that again, heterosexual male masochism, is mimicking the weakness of women who conform to male authority and power, and that masochist men and sexually dominant and sadistic women, are not being strong TOGETHER. This describes equality of assertiveness and strength, as a purely social process, but not also as a psychological one, and it fails to realise or acknowledge, that mutual and equal strength and assertiveness, is achieved between heterosexual masochist men and sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, by creating an interchange of pleasure and power, towards equality, without diminishing, repressing, or denying very important and vital individual, and individual group differences.
Many lesbian women, also have some desire to dominate heterosexual masochist men sexually and sadistically, and in fact lesbian women like Valerie Solanis (who wrote the Scum Manifesto), admitted that she got some pleasure from this, as does the libertarian feminist, sadist, lesbian, and writer/author, Camille Paglia, but none of this diminishes these women’s lesbianism, and does not mean they are heterosexual.
One big reason, why lesbian women, sometimes like to be sexually dominant and/or sadistic, towards heterosexual masochist men, is because in their lesbian love relationships, they are not allowed to be sexually dominant and sadistic, or sexually submissive towards other women, but they internalise characteristics, of the heterosexual masochist man, and identify with it, in their lesbian desires for BDSM activities, to be added to their lesbian love relationships. These lesbian women, will sometimes use heterosexual women for this too, in order to make them in some way socially and/or sexually, submissive and masochistic towards them, who like homosexual men, will play a masochist role for them, and go along with this social and psychological pressure.
Some Influences, Causes, Treatment, and the Nature of Masochism
Last night, I looked at about five websites, on the causes and nature of sexual and/or love-orientated masochism. The vast majority of the explanations I disagree with, but there were a few sites, which one way or another, were quite good, and I got the impression, that some experts and academics, have been learning from everyday masochistic people.
One website, said that the best treatment for unwanted or excessive masochism, is counselling or therapy, involving the masochist person getting to know when they feel vulnerable, and learning coping-strategies and ways to respond and understand better to it, and also, having more or better social skills, and assertiveness training, and I more or less agree with that.
I also think that so-called masochism, in men, is to a degree natural, necessary, and a part of being able to love women more spiritually, individually, and/or humanistically, although spiritual, individual, and human love, is generally shunned and rejected these days, in so-called love-relationships, and in our very hedonistic society. One website said accurately, that contrary to past psychiatric and psychological opinion, that masochism was much more common in men than women.
I have sometimes thought, that my own sexual and or love-orientated masochism towards women, was unwanted or excessive, or that it is sending out the wrong signals and messages to some women, encouraging, violence, evil, or oppression in women towards others, and not leading by good influence or example, and this is sometimes very true. However, it’s also true that my sexual and love-orientated masochism towards women, makes me more significantly, deeply, and constructively moral, and paradoxically enables or allows me to be more assertive socially and psychologically. It may also have the same influence or affect upon women, and people in general, according to how I use, integrate, and orientate it.
One website, said that the best treatment for unwanted or excessive masochism, is counselling or therapy, involving the masochist person getting to know when they feel vulnerable, and learning coping-strategies and ways to respond and understand better to it, and also, having more or better social skills, and assertiveness training, and I more or less agree with that.
I also think that so-called masochism, in men, is to a degree natural, necessary, and a part of being able to love women more spiritually, individually, and/or humanistically, although spiritual, individual, and human love, is generally shunned and rejected these days, in so-called love-relationships, and in our very hedonistic society. One website said accurately, that contrary to past psychiatric and psychological opinion, that masochism was much more common in men than women.
I have sometimes thought, that my own sexual and or love-orientated masochism towards women, was unwanted or excessive, or that it is sending out the wrong signals and messages to some women, encouraging, violence, evil, or oppression in women towards others, and not leading by good influence or example, and this is sometimes very true. However, it’s also true that my sexual and love-orientated masochism towards women, makes me more significantly, deeply, and constructively moral, and paradoxically enables or allows me to be more assertive socially and psychologically. It may also have the same influence or affect upon women, and people in general, according to how I use, integrate, and orientate it.
Heterosexual Male Masochism, and the Extreme Mental, Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Pain and Suffering I Experience
(from being Deprived of Sexually Dominant and Sadist Women, Socially, Sexually, Spiritually, and in terms of Love.)
I am diagnosed with a psychiatric illness - namely "mental illness", (and occasional "acute anxiety"), by a psychiatrist, because I sometimes hear voices (as so-called hallucinations), although the voices are mostly highly intelligent, loving, caring, friendly, female voices, who often discuss and debate with me, and I can mostly evoke, or shut them down, when I want to.
There are no psychiatrists, pills, mental health workers, doctors, friends, family, or therapists, who can heal or cure my so-called mental health problems, distress, and suffering through deprivation from femdom and sadist women, other than sexually dominant women, female sadists, or other women, who can in some way or ways, play this role for me. That is the cure, and healing that I so very desperately need, and which will also give me more higher social and human knowledge. For reasons I will explain in this article, the vast majority of women won’t help, heal, or love me in this way, and in a way, they are also depriving themselves, from me and others like me, and in a way suffering from this too, although obviously not as much as I am.
The deprivation I experience, from being deprived of femdom and sadist women, which gives me extreme mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual suffering, is very similar to the extreme pain and suffering, that my mum experienced, before she committed suicide, and for about four or five months, usually every wintertime when she became very mentally and emotionally unwell. She too, was very different in a way, and she too couldn’t be loved in the way she needed, and this was a big part of why she committed suicide.
I have freely worshipped, grovelled to, been humiliated, and dominated, by sexually dominant women, and female sadists before, on several occasions in the past (without having to pay money for it) - and which helped and healed me for a while tremendously - but these women, have all at some stage (mostly because they all had boyfriends), left me, and failed to get in touch with me again, and they didn’t continue with what both I, and they, really wanted and needed to do.
Whilst I don’t think I will ever commit suicide - because my mum never wanted me to, and I have lots of important things to write and do - the pain, distress, and suffering I experience, from the deprivation from femdom and sadist women, is so unbearable and intense at times, that I think that, if I don’t get the healing that I mention, from femdom, sadist women, or other women who will play the role for me, it may send me insane for a while.
The worst thing about suicidal feelings, is that you can’t publicly mention if you have any, in case psychiatrists or the Police incarcerate you, in a psychiatric hospital, and which is very wrong and needs to change, because suicidal people need all kinds of help, and not immediate incarceration, or the immediate threat of it. Also, because of this immediate, or possible immediate threat of psychiatric incarceration, towards many suicidal people, their suicidal thoughts, feelings, and intentions, remain a secret, and so they can’t ask for real or other help, and they don’t get the help they need, and that’s one big reason why they eventually commit suicide, because of the threat of psychiatric incarceration, and the social taboos surrounding suicidal thoughts and feelings.
Just after I first got a psychiatric diagnosis, as "psychotic", in 1991 because I heard voices, by a so-called socialist, social worker - who told me she would have supported Nazism, and by my local GP/medical doctor at the time - my older brother told me, that the reason he thought I was "mentally ill", was because I couldn’t do, what I wanted to do, with women. He knew me, and this, very well, and he was absolutely right. My mum, also once told my brother, that I am the way I am, not because of her, but just because that’s the way I am. Again, she knew this well, and was absolutely right.
My mum did abuse me as a child and teenager, but she can in no way be blamed, for my heterosexual masochism, as I have always been this way, ever since I was a very young child, even before the abuse started to happen, and long after the psychological affects of it.
The physical, mental, and emotional abuse, I suffered, throughout most of my childhood and early teens, from my mum, did indeed affect me up to a point, and up until my early twenties, in a bad or detrimental way - making me very shy, and nervous of general social interaction, and causing me some trauma, anxiety, and depression - but it never made me masochistic towards women, as I was born that way, and I have always been the same. Part of the child and teen abuse, from my mum, is that my mum did persecute, and up to a point abuse me, for being a heterosexual masochist - as again, she knew me well, and always knew this about me - as many professionals and people in society have persecuted and discriminated against me for it, but she did not in any way, cause or condition my masochism towards women.
For years, I have spoken to hundreds of women, over the Internet, from all classes and walks of life, and the vast majority of these women admit, that they love men grovelling to them and physically worshipping them, that for all kinds of reasons (including some very important reasons, related to greater love for men), they all secretly like debasing men, and these Internet women, also told me that most women are sadists. I realise that "sadism", is considered as a derogatory term by society or some people, and that female sadism, is very different from male sadism, but most open and honest female sadists, are not abusive or evil, they only go with masochist men, and are just as capable of tenderness, affection, so-called normal sexual interaction, and love.
These hundreds of women, on the Internet, I have had hundreds of fairly long conversations with, for many years - via email correspondences, MSN and Yahoo messenger (one-to-one) conversations, webcam chat rooms, and other chat rooms - only told me what they really think and feel about themselves, and other women, in relation to men, because they can remain anonymous, and because I don’t see or know them socially - but socially most women don’t and won’t admit, that they like men to serve them, and that they like to humiliate and debase men, or at least fantasise about this, or do it covertly. These women socially, also won’t admit, that they are suffering in some way, or up to a point, because of this denial and deprivation, but these women, and many dominatrixes, perpetuate the myth that they don’t care in any way, or need heterosexual masochist men, and that only masochist men, are the ones who suffer from this kind of opposite sex deprivation.
This one-sided need myth, that many women and dominatrixes perpetuate, feel that it gives them greater power, dominance, and control, over heterosexual masochist men, or that they are pleasing heterosexual masochist men in this way - and which is true in a way, because it sometimes part of the role play - but to perpetuate the myth socially, intellectually, and to describe it as absolute truth, also creates lies, and it also limits, diminishes, and dehumanises heterosexual male masochism, female sexual dominance, and female sadism, individually, and in terms of relatedness, interaction, creativity, and love.
When I asked these hundreds of women over the Internet, why this was the case with women in society or face-to-face, that they lie and won’t admit to all of this, they told me that it is because, women in society or socially, have a certain pride to maintain (to a degree or in a way that men don’t have), and that most women also have a certain respectability to maintain too, and that if this was not the case, then these women feel that they would not be real women (in the same way that some heterosexual masochist men, think and feel that being a masochist to women, makes them not real men).
The Internet women, also told me that many women in society and socially, expect men to accept this so-called pride and respectability about women, and collude with the lie, false pride, false respectability, false-love, and myth. Most of the Internet women, agreed with me though, that women need to be honest about this, and that things need to change.
These Internet women, also agreed with me, that if some women, deny that they don’t have any sexually dominant and/or sadistic tendencies towards men at all, that this is impossible, because then they wouldn’t be human beings - as all human beings are dominant and sadistic to some extent - because we are not pure beings or angels, and because some people believe we evolved from animals, and people are very much like animals, in terms of so-called territory and hierarchy.
When I asked these woman, whether the so-called female pride and respectability, they referred to, was just female arrogance, hypocrisy, and cowardice, they admitted that it was arrogance, hypocrisy, and cowardice, but that most women in society, still didn’t think about it in that way. I then said, that I didn’t believe it was pride, because many sexually dominant and sadist women, are out and honest about their love and sexuality, and they still have plenty of pride and respectability, and I added that it was more than likely just plain extreme conformity, and most of the Internet women, again, agreed with me.
I live in the UK, in Kent. If any women, want to help cure and heal me, in the ways I have explained in this article, and to create greater knowledge and understanding on these, and other human and social matters, and to show some genuine pride, respectability, courage, and love, then please email me at peterpoets@googlemail.com.
I am diagnosed with a psychiatric illness - namely "mental illness", (and occasional "acute anxiety"), by a psychiatrist, because I sometimes hear voices (as so-called hallucinations), although the voices are mostly highly intelligent, loving, caring, friendly, female voices, who often discuss and debate with me, and I can mostly evoke, or shut them down, when I want to.
There are no psychiatrists, pills, mental health workers, doctors, friends, family, or therapists, who can heal or cure my so-called mental health problems, distress, and suffering through deprivation from femdom and sadist women, other than sexually dominant women, female sadists, or other women, who can in some way or ways, play this role for me. That is the cure, and healing that I so very desperately need, and which will also give me more higher social and human knowledge. For reasons I will explain in this article, the vast majority of women won’t help, heal, or love me in this way, and in a way, they are also depriving themselves, from me and others like me, and in a way suffering from this too, although obviously not as much as I am.
The deprivation I experience, from being deprived of femdom and sadist women, which gives me extreme mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual suffering, is very similar to the extreme pain and suffering, that my mum experienced, before she committed suicide, and for about four or five months, usually every wintertime when she became very mentally and emotionally unwell. She too, was very different in a way, and she too couldn’t be loved in the way she needed, and this was a big part of why she committed suicide.
I have freely worshipped, grovelled to, been humiliated, and dominated, by sexually dominant women, and female sadists before, on several occasions in the past (without having to pay money for it) - and which helped and healed me for a while tremendously - but these women, have all at some stage (mostly because they all had boyfriends), left me, and failed to get in touch with me again, and they didn’t continue with what both I, and they, really wanted and needed to do.
Whilst I don’t think I will ever commit suicide - because my mum never wanted me to, and I have lots of important things to write and do - the pain, distress, and suffering I experience, from the deprivation from femdom and sadist women, is so unbearable and intense at times, that I think that, if I don’t get the healing that I mention, from femdom, sadist women, or other women who will play the role for me, it may send me insane for a while.
The worst thing about suicidal feelings, is that you can’t publicly mention if you have any, in case psychiatrists or the Police incarcerate you, in a psychiatric hospital, and which is very wrong and needs to change, because suicidal people need all kinds of help, and not immediate incarceration, or the immediate threat of it. Also, because of this immediate, or possible immediate threat of psychiatric incarceration, towards many suicidal people, their suicidal thoughts, feelings, and intentions, remain a secret, and so they can’t ask for real or other help, and they don’t get the help they need, and that’s one big reason why they eventually commit suicide, because of the threat of psychiatric incarceration, and the social taboos surrounding suicidal thoughts and feelings.
Just after I first got a psychiatric diagnosis, as "psychotic", in 1991 because I heard voices, by a so-called socialist, social worker - who told me she would have supported Nazism, and by my local GP/medical doctor at the time - my older brother told me, that the reason he thought I was "mentally ill", was because I couldn’t do, what I wanted to do, with women. He knew me, and this, very well, and he was absolutely right. My mum, also once told my brother, that I am the way I am, not because of her, but just because that’s the way I am. Again, she knew this well, and was absolutely right.
My mum did abuse me as a child and teenager, but she can in no way be blamed, for my heterosexual masochism, as I have always been this way, ever since I was a very young child, even before the abuse started to happen, and long after the psychological affects of it.
The physical, mental, and emotional abuse, I suffered, throughout most of my childhood and early teens, from my mum, did indeed affect me up to a point, and up until my early twenties, in a bad or detrimental way - making me very shy, and nervous of general social interaction, and causing me some trauma, anxiety, and depression - but it never made me masochistic towards women, as I was born that way, and I have always been the same. Part of the child and teen abuse, from my mum, is that my mum did persecute, and up to a point abuse me, for being a heterosexual masochist - as again, she knew me well, and always knew this about me - as many professionals and people in society have persecuted and discriminated against me for it, but she did not in any way, cause or condition my masochism towards women.
For years, I have spoken to hundreds of women, over the Internet, from all classes and walks of life, and the vast majority of these women admit, that they love men grovelling to them and physically worshipping them, that for all kinds of reasons (including some very important reasons, related to greater love for men), they all secretly like debasing men, and these Internet women, also told me that most women are sadists. I realise that "sadism", is considered as a derogatory term by society or some people, and that female sadism, is very different from male sadism, but most open and honest female sadists, are not abusive or evil, they only go with masochist men, and are just as capable of tenderness, affection, so-called normal sexual interaction, and love.
These hundreds of women, on the Internet, I have had hundreds of fairly long conversations with, for many years - via email correspondences, MSN and Yahoo messenger (one-to-one) conversations, webcam chat rooms, and other chat rooms - only told me what they really think and feel about themselves, and other women, in relation to men, because they can remain anonymous, and because I don’t see or know them socially - but socially most women don’t and won’t admit, that they like men to serve them, and that they like to humiliate and debase men, or at least fantasise about this, or do it covertly. These women socially, also won’t admit, that they are suffering in some way, or up to a point, because of this denial and deprivation, but these women, and many dominatrixes, perpetuate the myth that they don’t care in any way, or need heterosexual masochist men, and that only masochist men, are the ones who suffer from this kind of opposite sex deprivation.
This one-sided need myth, that many women and dominatrixes perpetuate, feel that it gives them greater power, dominance, and control, over heterosexual masochist men, or that they are pleasing heterosexual masochist men in this way - and which is true in a way, because it sometimes part of the role play - but to perpetuate the myth socially, intellectually, and to describe it as absolute truth, also creates lies, and it also limits, diminishes, and dehumanises heterosexual male masochism, female sexual dominance, and female sadism, individually, and in terms of relatedness, interaction, creativity, and love.
When I asked these hundreds of women over the Internet, why this was the case with women in society or face-to-face, that they lie and won’t admit to all of this, they told me that it is because, women in society or socially, have a certain pride to maintain (to a degree or in a way that men don’t have), and that most women also have a certain respectability to maintain too, and that if this was not the case, then these women feel that they would not be real women (in the same way that some heterosexual masochist men, think and feel that being a masochist to women, makes them not real men).
The Internet women, also told me that many women in society and socially, expect men to accept this so-called pride and respectability about women, and collude with the lie, false pride, false respectability, false-love, and myth. Most of the Internet women, agreed with me though, that women need to be honest about this, and that things need to change.
These Internet women, also agreed with me, that if some women, deny that they don’t have any sexually dominant and/or sadistic tendencies towards men at all, that this is impossible, because then they wouldn’t be human beings - as all human beings are dominant and sadistic to some extent - because we are not pure beings or angels, and because some people believe we evolved from animals, and people are very much like animals, in terms of so-called territory and hierarchy.
When I asked these woman, whether the so-called female pride and respectability, they referred to, was just female arrogance, hypocrisy, and cowardice, they admitted that it was arrogance, hypocrisy, and cowardice, but that most women in society, still didn’t think about it in that way. I then said, that I didn’t believe it was pride, because many sexually dominant and sadist women, are out and honest about their love and sexuality, and they still have plenty of pride and respectability, and I added that it was more than likely just plain extreme conformity, and most of the Internet women, again, agreed with me.
I live in the UK, in Kent. If any women, want to help cure and heal me, in the ways I have explained in this article, and to create greater knowledge and understanding on these, and other human and social matters, and to show some genuine pride, respectability, courage, and love, then please email me at peterpoets@googlemail.com.
Female Masochists
I once knew a so-called female masochist, and she has some very beautiful and unique qualities, as I think all female masochists do - but for me, not in an overtly sexual way - but more so in terms of character and personality. On the other hand, some people say, that there is no such thing as female masochism - that it is an oxymoron - just plain conformity, and due to repressive, and oppressive, bad social conditioning. I think there is a lot of truth in this view, and that "masochism" and "sadism", are in a way, very reductionist, and psychiatric labels.
Anitta phillips, a self-described female masochist and author, has written a book on female masochism, called A Defence of Masochism, where she says that a male masochist, is not really suited to a female sadist, because she says, that so-called sadists tend to use some force, and masochists tend to use, more consensus, contracts, and shared agreement (she doesn't mention the other category of a female dominant, as a third type of woman and person). Anitta Phillips also says, that male masochists are actually much more suited to female masochists, who play the part of the female sadist or female dominant for them.
I've never read Anitta phillips book, but I once heard a short interview of her on the radio, and I have read a short review of her book, on www.amazon.co.uk. I agree with Anitta phillips’ view up to a point, but again, I think it's not the whole picture - not least, because I think that it is based on a very monogamous view of relationships - and that male masochists sometimes need, and are lovingly, socially, and sexually, suited to, a wide variety of women, including (reverse) female masochists, female sadists, female dominants, and other women.
I do believe, in a way, and up to a point, there are such women and people, as female dominants, female sadists, and female masochists, and that there is sort of such a thing as a so-called "switch" (who is both dominant and submissive), but female sadists and female dominants - for a big reason because of repression, of their natural love and sexuality - sometime need, or feel they need to, charge their female sadism or female dominance, by being masochistic and submissive in other situations, socially and sexually, and the same thing also sometimes applies to female and male masochists.
Anitta phillips, a self-described female masochist and author, has written a book on female masochism, called A Defence of Masochism, where she says that a male masochist, is not really suited to a female sadist, because she says, that so-called sadists tend to use some force, and masochists tend to use, more consensus, contracts, and shared agreement (she doesn't mention the other category of a female dominant, as a third type of woman and person). Anitta Phillips also says, that male masochists are actually much more suited to female masochists, who play the part of the female sadist or female dominant for them.
I've never read Anitta phillips book, but I once heard a short interview of her on the radio, and I have read a short review of her book, on www.amazon.co.uk. I agree with Anitta phillips’ view up to a point, but again, I think it's not the whole picture - not least, because I think that it is based on a very monogamous view of relationships - and that male masochists sometimes need, and are lovingly, socially, and sexually, suited to, a wide variety of women, including (reverse) female masochists, female sadists, female dominants, and other women.
I do believe, in a way, and up to a point, there are such women and people, as female dominants, female sadists, and female masochists, and that there is sort of such a thing as a so-called "switch" (who is both dominant and submissive), but female sadists and female dominants - for a big reason because of repression, of their natural love and sexuality - sometime need, or feel they need to, charge their female sadism or female dominance, by being masochistic and submissive in other situations, socially and sexually, and the same thing also sometimes applies to female and male masochists.
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