In this article, I explain that the common professional, and academic misconception, of "the perverted ideal of a woman" by heterosexual masochist men, is actually created by repressed BDSM society, and by repressed and repressive, so-called non-BDSM society - and what's more - heterosexual male masochism, is neither perverted, idealisation of women, nor a so-called mental illness.
When women and men, in society, come into sight or contact, with heterosexual male masochists, through covert or overt ways and means, this can create certain responses and fantasies in non-masochist men and women.
The secret natural female desire, for many women to gain some erotic and sexual pleasure, and love, from sexually dominating, and humiliating men (as a form of psychological sadism), if repressed or denied in some way, sometimes creates an extreme bonding between women, which then causes some lesbianism - or unnatural lesbian feelings - through the repression, deprivation, and denial, which then creates a perverse identification, towards and about heterosexual masochist men; which most openly sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, who are not deprived from heterosexual masochist men, don’t possess. This is not to say that actual lesbianism and male homosexuality, is unnatural, but there are some unnatural versions or forms of it, in some heterosexual women and men, in the ways that I here describe and explain in this article.
The male jealousy, from non-masochist men, about heterosexual masochist men worshipping women, and in some ways favouring women over men, socially, sexually, and in terms of love, creates some ignorance and homosexual feelings from non-masochist heterosexual men, towards heterosexual masochist men.
The extreme female bonding, denial, deprivation, and repression, which creates unnatural lesbian feelings in these women, is then projected onto men, creating female fantasies of homosexual male behaviour (as the extreme bonding of heterosexual sexually dominant men, can make these men fantasise about lesbian sexual behaviours).
This female denial, deprivation, and repression, also makes some actual homosexual men, feel that they have a role and duty, to conform to these perverse female fantasies about heterosexual masochist men, as a giving in to this pressure, to want the heterosexual masochist man, to be homosexual, and to label, dominate, and humiliate him as such. In giving in to this pressure, and the perverse fantasies of these women, these homosexual men, are in some ways playing the role of a heterosexual male masochist, in a social or interpersonal sense, but non-sexually. This is also another way, that actual homosexual men, deal with their jealousy of heterosexual masochist men, worshipping and favouring women over men.
These homosexual men, also play this role in attacking heterosexual masochist men in this way, in order to please these woman's projections, of their unnatural lesbianism onto the heterosexual masochist, and to conform in some way to their unnatural lesbian fantasies, to fantasise about the sexual activities of homosexuals. This also explains, why many repressed sexually dominant and sadistic women, will at some stage, try to get other men - usually sexually dominant men towards women - to sexually dominate and inflict pain and/or humiliation, on heterosexual masochist men, but they also try to get homosexual men to do this too, in the ways that I have explained.
The extreme bonding, deprivation from heterosexual masochist men, and the female fantasies of homosexual male behaviours and activities, using homosexual men as instruments to label the heterosexual masochist man as homosexual, and to encourage both homosexual and heterosexual men, to socially and/or sexually dominate the heterosexual male masochist, is a way of these women, to create a convenient lack of responsibility for their own true sexually dominant and sadistic thoughts, desires, and feelings, towards heterosexual masochist men, and towards men in general.
There is also a prejudice, about heterosexual masochist men, by men and women in society - particularly by some so-called radical feminist groups and individuals - that heterosexual masochist men, are mimicking and conforming to the characteristics, of socially and sexually submissive women towards men and male oppression, authoritarianism, and patriarchy. What this prejudiced and false view, doesn’t take into account, is that there are very distinct differences between female and male masochism, between female and male sadism, and that heterosexual masochist women are also different from socially submissive women.
Heterosexual female submissives and/or female masochists, have more of a tendency, to become or play the role, of sexual dominants and/or sadists, towards other men or women sexually, than heterosexual male masochists have a tendency, to play the sexually dominant or sadistic role towards women. One big reason for this, is because heterosexual female masochists, can absorb sexually assertive or dominant male sexuality, in both a passive, transformative, and an assertive or dominant sense, as a true part of their femininity, in order to distinguish and differentiate themselves, from socially submissive women towards men, male oppression, and patriarchy. On the other hand, heterosexual male masochists absorb assertive or dominant female sexuality, in order to either diminish masculinity, and/or to transform masculinity, into something more nurturing and passive for women.
There is also a widespread prejudice about male masochism, particularly by those of a socialist political persuasion, that again, heterosexual male masochism, is mimicking the weakness of women who conform to male authority and power, and that masochist men and sexually dominant and sadistic women, are not being strong TOGETHER. This describes equality of assertiveness and strength, as a purely social process, but not also as a psychological one, and it fails to realise or acknowledge, that mutual and equal strength and assertiveness, is achieved between heterosexual masochist men and sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, by creating an interchange of pleasure and power, towards equality, without diminishing, repressing, or denying very important and vital individual, and individual group differences.
Many lesbian women, also have some desire to dominate heterosexual masochist men sexually and sadistically, and in fact lesbian women like Valerie Solanis (who wrote the Scum Manifesto), admitted that she got some pleasure from this, as does the libertarian feminist, sadist, lesbian, and writer/author, Camille Paglia, but none of this diminishes these women’s lesbianism, and does not mean they are heterosexual.
One big reason, why lesbian women, sometimes like to be sexually dominant and/or sadistic, towards heterosexual masochist men, is because in their lesbian love relationships, they are not allowed to be sexually dominant and sadistic, or sexually submissive towards other women, but they internalise characteristics, of the heterosexual masochist man, and identify with it, in their lesbian desires for BDSM activities, to be added to their lesbian love relationships. These lesbian women, will sometimes use heterosexual women for this too, in order to make them in some way socially and/or sexually, submissive and masochistic towards them, who like homosexual men, will play a masochist role for them, and go along with this social and psychological pressure.
When women and men, in society, come into sight or contact, with heterosexual male masochists, through covert or overt ways and means, this can create certain responses and fantasies in non-masochist men and women.
The secret natural female desire, for many women to gain some erotic and sexual pleasure, and love, from sexually dominating, and humiliating men (as a form of psychological sadism), if repressed or denied in some way, sometimes creates an extreme bonding between women, which then causes some lesbianism - or unnatural lesbian feelings - through the repression, deprivation, and denial, which then creates a perverse identification, towards and about heterosexual masochist men; which most openly sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, who are not deprived from heterosexual masochist men, don’t possess. This is not to say that actual lesbianism and male homosexuality, is unnatural, but there are some unnatural versions or forms of it, in some heterosexual women and men, in the ways that I here describe and explain in this article.
The male jealousy, from non-masochist men, about heterosexual masochist men worshipping women, and in some ways favouring women over men, socially, sexually, and in terms of love, creates some ignorance and homosexual feelings from non-masochist heterosexual men, towards heterosexual masochist men.
The extreme female bonding, denial, deprivation, and repression, which creates unnatural lesbian feelings in these women, is then projected onto men, creating female fantasies of homosexual male behaviour (as the extreme bonding of heterosexual sexually dominant men, can make these men fantasise about lesbian sexual behaviours).
This female denial, deprivation, and repression, also makes some actual homosexual men, feel that they have a role and duty, to conform to these perverse female fantasies about heterosexual masochist men, as a giving in to this pressure, to want the heterosexual masochist man, to be homosexual, and to label, dominate, and humiliate him as such. In giving in to this pressure, and the perverse fantasies of these women, these homosexual men, are in some ways playing the role of a heterosexual male masochist, in a social or interpersonal sense, but non-sexually. This is also another way, that actual homosexual men, deal with their jealousy of heterosexual masochist men, worshipping and favouring women over men.
These homosexual men, also play this role in attacking heterosexual masochist men in this way, in order to please these woman's projections, of their unnatural lesbianism onto the heterosexual masochist, and to conform in some way to their unnatural lesbian fantasies, to fantasise about the sexual activities of homosexuals. This also explains, why many repressed sexually dominant and sadistic women, will at some stage, try to get other men - usually sexually dominant men towards women - to sexually dominate and inflict pain and/or humiliation, on heterosexual masochist men, but they also try to get homosexual men to do this too, in the ways that I have explained.
The extreme bonding, deprivation from heterosexual masochist men, and the female fantasies of homosexual male behaviours and activities, using homosexual men as instruments to label the heterosexual masochist man as homosexual, and to encourage both homosexual and heterosexual men, to socially and/or sexually dominate the heterosexual male masochist, is a way of these women, to create a convenient lack of responsibility for their own true sexually dominant and sadistic thoughts, desires, and feelings, towards heterosexual masochist men, and towards men in general.
There is also a prejudice, about heterosexual masochist men, by men and women in society - particularly by some so-called radical feminist groups and individuals - that heterosexual masochist men, are mimicking and conforming to the characteristics, of socially and sexually submissive women towards men and male oppression, authoritarianism, and patriarchy. What this prejudiced and false view, doesn’t take into account, is that there are very distinct differences between female and male masochism, between female and male sadism, and that heterosexual masochist women are also different from socially submissive women.
Heterosexual female submissives and/or female masochists, have more of a tendency, to become or play the role, of sexual dominants and/or sadists, towards other men or women sexually, than heterosexual male masochists have a tendency, to play the sexually dominant or sadistic role towards women. One big reason for this, is because heterosexual female masochists, can absorb sexually assertive or dominant male sexuality, in both a passive, transformative, and an assertive or dominant sense, as a true part of their femininity, in order to distinguish and differentiate themselves, from socially submissive women towards men, male oppression, and patriarchy. On the other hand, heterosexual male masochists absorb assertive or dominant female sexuality, in order to either diminish masculinity, and/or to transform masculinity, into something more nurturing and passive for women.
There is also a widespread prejudice about male masochism, particularly by those of a socialist political persuasion, that again, heterosexual male masochism, is mimicking the weakness of women who conform to male authority and power, and that masochist men and sexually dominant and sadistic women, are not being strong TOGETHER. This describes equality of assertiveness and strength, as a purely social process, but not also as a psychological one, and it fails to realise or acknowledge, that mutual and equal strength and assertiveness, is achieved between heterosexual masochist men and sexually dominant and/or sadistic women, by creating an interchange of pleasure and power, towards equality, without diminishing, repressing, or denying very important and vital individual, and individual group differences.
Many lesbian women, also have some desire to dominate heterosexual masochist men sexually and sadistically, and in fact lesbian women like Valerie Solanis (who wrote the Scum Manifesto), admitted that she got some pleasure from this, as does the libertarian feminist, sadist, lesbian, and writer/author, Camille Paglia, but none of this diminishes these women’s lesbianism, and does not mean they are heterosexual.
One big reason, why lesbian women, sometimes like to be sexually dominant and/or sadistic, towards heterosexual masochist men, is because in their lesbian love relationships, they are not allowed to be sexually dominant and sadistic, or sexually submissive towards other women, but they internalise characteristics, of the heterosexual masochist man, and identify with it, in their lesbian desires for BDSM activities, to be added to their lesbian love relationships. These lesbian women, will sometimes use heterosexual women for this too, in order to make them in some way socially and/or sexually, submissive and masochistic towards them, who like homosexual men, will play a masochist role for them, and go along with this social and psychological pressure.
